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Reply #29

cps10 — Wed, 06 Dec 2006 14:28:53 GMT

Dawn

Same to you! This is the best news I've heard in quite some time!! Keep in touch

Reply #28

mylollipop — Wed, 06 Dec 2006 09:26:32 GMT

HE is here to help you, just let HIM. You are experiencing love and truth. Many prayers on your behalf have gone up. You have taken the first step and He will never forsake you

Reply #27

bipolar — Wed, 06 Dec 2006 07:45:09 GMT

THANKS AGAIN LP MEMBERS ,(FRIENDS) GOD BLESS ALL OF YALL

Reply #26

emilyg — Wed, 06 Dec 2006 07:42:02 GMT

You made my day!!! love to you and your hubby

Reply #25

bipolar — Wed, 06 Dec 2006 07:30:49 GMT

Well WHO EVER PRAYED FOR ME!!!! It worked i sat him down and told him and I SWARE TO GOD!!!! it was a miracle on melancon road...hahahaa he fussed which i knew he would but he said (I thought you would have relapsed sooner) you did good! he understood and that he would support me and be their for me to help me not too go back. He said he loved me and that we would work it out!!! yall have no idea how much i felt a peace and the first thing i thought of was all you guys that was praying for me. W... [ More ]

Reply #24

Tenaj — Tue, 05 Dec 2006 20:23:04 GMT

Wish you the best of Luck Bipolar and God Bless you.

Reply #23

KY Floyd — Tue, 05 Dec 2006 20:03:00 GMT

Now that you've gotten the advice, sift through it and take action. Tell your husband now, because the problem is already there and Christmas is just an excuse to put off solving the problem.

If you really want to solve your problem you'll work on not gambling and you'll work on not spending your time talking about gambling, especially with other gamblers. Spending time here as somebody with a gambling problem is like being an alcoholic and going to bars with your friends and telling your... [ More ]

Reply #22

bipolar — Tue, 05 Dec 2006 16:32:12 GMT

Thank so much! All of you that replyed to my post yo people have givin me so much incouragement!!!! everyone of you are sure blessed i guess is true when you call out for help that God cant come to you in the flesh but he uses people and through them he sends encouragement against hopelessness. I sure hope my husband will understand because i couldnt imagine my life without him. (He was my first and he will be my last) So for you people being their for me with such sopport this is my prayers for... [ More ]

Reply #21

Greg — Tue, 05 Dec 2006 01:44:48 GMT

Dawn,

I invite you to consider the following:

a) Find a certified addictions counselor on your insurance plan (call the 800# on your card); if you do not have insurance like 46 million Americans in this country, locate and call the local community mental health center in your area-- most work on a sliding fee scale or see people for no cost if they are subsidized by grants

b) Identify your triggers

c) Attend several meetings of Gamblers Anonymous [GA], learn about those wonderful 12

Reply #20

cps10 — Mon, 04 Dec 2006 23:24:25 GMT

St. G

Couldn't agree with you more on that! Well said.

Reply #19

st.germain — Mon, 04 Dec 2006 22:48:23 GMT

Dawn, in AA when you make a mistake like you said you did...it is called a relapse....not a mistake. People are just human enough to have relapses when the temptation is staring you in the face

in admitting that you had a relapse you are taking the first step to full recovery. Nothing to be ashamed about. In this case...your ahead by 1600 bucks.......ya got lucky...use that lucky streak to talk to your husband and tell him that you had a relapse and have him work with you to save the marria... [ More ]

Reply #18

luckieStarr — Mon, 04 Dec 2006 19:12:55 GMT

Have you thought, maybe it is the best thing for you to bring this out in the open and if you divorce your husband it may be for the best. You should be able to live your life without fear...life is too short as it is...so why kill yourself or to be unhappy. You should find someone who you can share your hobby with (gambling) look at all the gamblers on this site...gamblers are good people and deserve love...like anyone else. You need counseling so you can love yourself and think more of yo... [ More ]

Reply #17

justxploring — Mon, 04 Dec 2006 05:02:37 GMT

I thought about killing myself but im not , Icouldnt do that to my family!

I know the feeling of hopelessness. I was once in a coma because I was in a lot of pain and took too many pills. I attended a service Sunday afternoon to cheer me up (I'm in one of my searching for an answer stages) and, although I don't agree 100% with what the pastor said, he was talking about people who give up, doubt and question why bad things happen. Then he said something like If you've been in an accident... [ More ]

Reply #16

emilyg — Mon, 04 Dec 2006 04:19:32 GMT

Reply #15

delores247 — Mon, 04 Dec 2006 04:14:09 GMT

Thank you Rubi 311

Reply #14

cps10 — Sun, 03 Dec 2006 22:55:52 GMT

I agree with what everyone says: your husband will forgive you if you just come to him about it.

I remember someone mentioning extra cash...where do you get that? I haven't seen a dime of my own money since I got married...and I am the only one in the house that works

Reply #13

kkkathleen — Sun, 03 Dec 2006 22:46:17 GMT

Dawn, I'm so so sorry for your dilemma. We all make mistakes, and you've been clean for 5 years. I really feel you need to pray for guidance for you and your husband.I've been in a few dilemmas well more than a few and the lord has seen me through. Pray to the lord and he will guide you. I think being alone a lot has probably compounded your situation. Counseling for you and your husband would definitely help. But there are some men who just won't go. It would probably help you even if you went... [ More ]

Reply #12

Rick G — Sun, 03 Dec 2006 20:06:37 GMT

Dawn,

I like Litebet's advice. If you were my wife I'd forgive you.

Let him read your post.

Very moving...I wish you and your husband all the best. Hang in there.

Reply #11

psykomo — Sun, 03 Dec 2006 19:46:59 GMT

Just tell Hubby you have $1600

and plan to give it to a good CHARITY or CHURCH in your local

area..................if you don't have one that you really know ....

contact The Salvation Army, soon as possible before XMAS!

Sounds like the right thing to DO in a situation like YOURS and

no better timing if YOU truly want to HELP yourself others too.

ALSO...........NO TAXESSSSSSSSS.............. let Hubby deduct IT!

MARY XMA$

PSYKOMO

Reply #10

Litebets27 — Sun, 03 Dec 2006 19:44:39 GMT

Waiting until Christmas will eat you up on the inside. Feeling quilty about something that you did and holding it in for a period of time creates alot of stress that you are placing on yourself. It can make you sick.

Let your husband read your confession that you shared with us here. Then follow it with a discussion as littleoldlady posted. Your husband has come through the losing issue 5 years ago with you. This was a small set-back, but a winning one( although that doesn't make it right).... [ More ]

Reply #9

numbergirly — Sun, 03 Dec 2006 19:32:35 GMT

Hello bipolar... I know what your'e going through I've been married for 18 years and have no children but, I do have a gambling problem also but, my husband always tell me he would never leave me because of it and I truly believe in my heart that your husband won't leave you either. As far as your gambling problem I really don't know what to tell you because, I try to stop and it seems as though I gamble even harder especially when my husband say's he would never leave me but, you know what they... [ More ]

Reply #8

Littleoldlady — Sun, 03 Dec 2006 19:11:23 GMT

Besides prayer, what you need to do is to tell your husband that you would rather NOT have to ask him for money. Tell him exactly how you feel when you have to ask him. Then, get a job and make your own. I am sure that if he loves you, he will understand how you feel. Some men think that if their wife works, it means that they aren't doing enough to support her. That is a flasehood...work provides a person with dignity and gives purpose to their life. I am surprised that you only had a g... [ More ]

Reply #7

Rubi 311 — Sun, 03 Dec 2006 18:47:27 GMT

Delores247, I will pray for you also....you are absolutely right

Reply #6

floridian — Sun, 03 Dec 2006 18:46:09 GMT

Man!, what a story, I am so sorry for your dilemma. On the positive side, what I would not give for some more honest women like yourself. Okay, so you had a problem and worked with it and had great success for five years and now you had a little misstep.

I would hope your husband is not so perfect a person as to hold this against you. You obviously are torn up inside because of it and that ought to be enough punishment. I can not believe you two can not move on especially after 20 years

Reply #5

delores247 — Sun, 03 Dec 2006 18:21:34 GMT

Hi Bipolar I will pray for you,But i think your family will forgive you,You know it is so many ways we get our selves in Trouble you ,know I am in trouble too,Unlike your problem,mind is Health,Right now i would sell and trade everything i own for my life to be normal again,Do to an addiction i put my life in danger and now have to see Every Specailist out their and at present i am having complications that can lead to amputation,God forbid so i ask that you also pray for me too,But i donot mean... [ More ]

Reply #4

Rubi 311 — Sun, 03 Dec 2006 18:11:48 GMT

Bipolar, have you thought about getting some counseling? It might help you sort some things out and give you some support. It sounds like there may be something lacking in your life. I noticed you don't have any children, is there a reason your spouse does not want you to work? Does he freely give you money without asking for it? What makes you think your spouse will want a divorce? It is common to have a relapse. It is remarkable that you went five years, which tells me (with help and supp... [ More ]

Reply #3

idnts701 — Sun, 03 Dec 2006 18:03:23 GMT

Bipolar: I support your decision wholeheartedly and sometimes there comes a point in our lives where we have to do what we have to do to save ouir marriages, lives, etc. It's good that you can admit it. Some of us in society with a habit, be it drugs, gambling, alcoholism, etc. cannot admit it. So I commend you on your decision. I too like playing the lottery, video slots, scratch off's with hopes of winning the big one and sure my husband wants to know what's happening with my EXTRA $$$ an... [ More ]

Reply #2

lottaloot — Sun, 03 Dec 2006 18:03:04 GMT

The first step is admitting it you have done that.

I don't think for one minute that your husband will leave you because you realize that you do have an addiction recovery is an onging process.

I do think that he may leave you if you continue to gamble.

Remember...one day at a time. Good Luck in your recovery

Reply #1

Kidzmom — Sun, 03 Dec 2006 17:54:14 GMT

Dawn,

You have my prayers. Have you been to therapy? I've been married 20 years also and marriage/gambling therapy may be the way to save yours. I don't work addiction patients but being in the medical field, all addiction is the same in one form or another. You just have to seek the help you need. I wish the best to you and your husband.

K.

im in TROUBLE

bipolar — Sun, 03 Dec 2006 17:37:08 GMT

well guys i might be leaving lottery post i know i probably didnt post much here are made any since about any systems i talked about,but i sure did enjoy this website yall have realy had some good ideas and yall are so nice.THANK YOU! you see i had a gambling problem 5 years ago. i gambled 12,000 dollars in one year at the casinos playing slots.I know its not a lot compared to some gambling addicts but it was a lot to my husband! well i never went back once i had to tell him about my gambling pr... [ More ]